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What Do You Stand For? - A Kids' Guide To Building Character
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1. You can choose
to be optimistic. You've probably heard a pessimist described
as someone who sees a glass of water half empty, while an optimist
sees it as half full. The pessimist focuses on the negative (the
missing water), while the optimist sees the positive (the water
that's there). Who has a better outlook? Who's likely
to be happier, more confident and sure?
2. You can choose
to accept things as they are. This doesn't mean you wilt and
give up. It means that you don't struggle, whine, and bang
your head against a brick wall when things don't go right—behaviors
that make you a helpless victim. (It's what eats you that
puts the pounds of weight on your spirit.) Instead, you get on with
your life. You move forward.
3. You can choose
to be resilient. Have you ever watched a tree swaying in a storm?
A tree that stands rigidly will never win a battle against the wind.
Trees that bend with the wind are those that survive. Like a tree,
you can bend and sway as life batters and blasts you - then bounce
back again, supported by your strong, deep roots. When you're
resilient, you can survive almost anything - being hurt, frustrated,
or let down, losing friends, making mistakes, and much more. Remember
the image of a tree in the storm. You can learn a lot from nature.
attitudes doesn't mean that you'll never experience
pain, suffering, or disappointment. You will. But having good attitudes
will help you turn your problems into teachers so you can learn
from them and grow.
attitudes doesn't mean you should ignore problems. If someone
steals your bike, you won't say "So what?" Instead,
you will contact the police and report your stolen bike. You'll
do everything you can to get it back. But if you can't get
it back, you'll accept the fact that it's gone. And
you won't let that drag you down.
Flip a coin
in the air. What do you get? Either heads or tails. Problems always
have a flip side, too. If you fail a test, you can flip the coin
and learn to study harder or find a tutor. If you lose a friend,
you can flip the coin, repair the friendship, and find a new friend.
If you don't like your looks, you can flip coin and develop
a fantastic personality.
4. You can choose
to be cheerful. Have you spent time around cheerful people? If you
have, then you know that they energize you. They are like human
battery chargers. You can be one, too. Start by refusing to say
gloomy things. Bite your tongue. Count to 10. Pull up the corners
of your mouth. When you send out positive words, thoughts, and feelings,
positive people (and things) are attracted to you.
5. You can choose
to be enthusiastic. Greet each new day with excitement. Approach
tasks and chores with zest. Enthusiasm is catching! The more up
beat you are, the more people around you will feel and act the same.
6. You can choose
to be more alert. If you are more alert to potential problems, you
can be better prepared for them and even dodge some. Of course,
you can also be alert to positive experiences. You hear an announcement
about a team tryout or new club. You write down the time and place
and plan to go.
7. You can choose
to have a sense of humor. When you do something silly (everyone
does), don't miss the opportunity to laugh at yourself. It's
one of life's great joys. I've done lots of loony things,
and I've provided my self (and others) with many happy hours
of entertainment. Once I was invited to give a talk to some senior
citizens at a rest home. Without checking the address carefully,
I mistakenly charged into the Board of Realtors and announced to
their startled faces that I was there to teach them a lesson on
If you laugh
a lot, you will be healthier. Laughter releases good chemicals in
your body that stimulate you and can help you to grow.
8. You can choose
to be a good sport. This attitude can win you friends even if you
don't win the game or competition. Being a good sport means
losing gracefully—smiling, shaking hands with the winner,
not blaming other people or circumstances for your loss.
9. You can choose
to be humble. People who toot their own horns seldom attract an
audience. If you are genuinely interested in others, they will see
your good qualities even if you don't advertise them. They
don't feel that you're trying to one-up them. They can
relax around you and be themselves.
10. You can
choose to be grateful. Think about it: You probably have a lot to
be grateful for. Gratitude puts a smile on your face. It makes you
feel good about your life. And other people feel good about being
11. You can
choose to have faith. For some people, this means believing in God
or another Higher Being/Higher Power. Others put their faith in
their country, in other people, in things, or in themselves. Having
faith means believing that things will work out for you—and
you can work things out for yourself. If you expect to fail, you
probably will. If you expect to achieve, you're much more
likely to reach your goal.
12. You can
choose to have hope. Without hope, life has no meaning or point.
We expect nothing, plan nothing, and don't set goals for ourselves
(why bother?). Hope may be your most important positive attitude—the
basis for All the others. What do you hope for? What are your dreams?
What are your ambitions? Your purpose in life? If you are willing
to consider the questions, you're already a hopeful person.
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